After speaking of the bride’s father can not fail to involve the Bride’s Mom… It would go against one of the most important figures of marriage and we know that mothers sometimes are really dangerous! It is said that the wedding day is really not wanted for the husband but for the Bride’s Mom. What, then, it is one of the greatest protagonists. But sometimes, you know, Bride’s Mom figure comes out a bit from the script. Of course, their role can be invaluable. Mine too, Mom, helped me a lot before yes. Perhaps, in some cases, a bit too much. But we know that without them nothing would be like it will be, and then it, will be without their tears, would not the same thing. Then here is some advice to “use them” carefully.
1. involve but clarify
You may have spent the last 10 years away from home, you can be living together for 8 years with your future husband, have two children, three dogs, five birdies and one goldfish, but nothing will ban your mother to behave as if you had 12 years ! For her you will always be “their baby” that is going out HER home! Then it will start searching for you participation, party favors, clothing, flowers etc etc ... The advice to you is to be immediately clear! If you like, let she do, but do not do YOUR marriage be HER Marriage. If you do not feel right, then take the situation in hand, clarified that you are grown up, and you want her company and support, but that choices must always be yours! After that take it a few times with you, especially when it comes to a decision: she believe in taking her fundamental and you need the advice of Mom ever!
2. gown choice
Bride’s Mom MUST be absolutely! For two fundamental reasons: the first is that it is an emotion too big you can deprive your mother of this joy and only you, as I said in this previous post, will be objective in the final choice The second is that unfortunately the studios tend to treat, best who comes with his mother to the first tests … Going with girlfriends implies that you are just there to waste time, because you know … the choice is done with mom!
3. Take your time
I speak on some time to spend with the bride’s mom: a beautiful spa, a walk, a movie to watch on the couch eating a little ‘junk food! But beware: NEVER mention the wedding! Head back to the times when you were only mother and daughter (maybe even accomplices) and enjoy these moments! You’ll miss it really much!
4. Pushy Mom
Never allowed your mum to enter the matter between you and your future husband! Allowed not to be the first woman of the wedding day. Do not get stress from phone calls in which: “the daughter of my friend’s friend has done so, do you it ???”. Ask your mother to not to give unsolicited advice, which are those that get on my nerves! Avoiding these invasions of the field the role of mother of the bride will be flawless! And your mothers as they are? A peek at this post could serve?